Sunday, November 30, 2014

The Cup of Friendship

I have just got back from a short but unforgettable holiday at Marari with the old 'gang' from College consisting of Shamsher, Kala and Philip. We were of course accompanied by our wives.

Cheers to Friendship! With the Quaich presented by Dan O'Connor 

Relaxing at the Bar

The AGM, as we call it, has become an annual feature, hosted by Philip and Bina at their beautiful sea-side villa at Marari, bang on the beach. We spent 5 delightful days there, doing nothing but eat, drink, relax and chat. Bina's food as usual was heavenly and we were spoilt silly by the hosts and their very attentive staff, particularly Rajesh and Murugan who catered to every whim and fancy of ours.

Staying with Philip and Bina is quite an experience, somewhat akin to being guests of royalty. I have heard that in pre-independence days, in the princely states, like Jammu & Kashmir, the Durbar used to move from place to place, depending on the weather, and I suspect, the mood of the Maharaja. This is exactly what happens when Philip and Bina move to their beach house in Marari. An entire retinue of courtiers, from cooks and butlers to chauffeurs, boat-drivers and watchmen, move with them. Short of the royal standard being furled and unfurled, the protocols are very much like those followed when the Queen moves into Balmoral Castle from Buckingham Palace !
  
The highlight of the holiday was a luxurious cruise aboard Philip's yacht which took us all around the backwaters, and culminated in a grand biriyani lunch at the Kottayam Sailing Club at Kumarakom.

Full Steam Ahead!


I try my hand at piloting the yacht

Captain Nandita




Philip and Shamsher enjoying the ride



The one and only Arvind Kala

Bina on the phone


Chunnu and Simmy check out the plush interiors of the yacht



Relaxing at the Sailing Club in Kumarakom



Bina and Simmy on the verandah of the beach house



A view of the sea from the verandah

Another interesting feature of this year's  AGM was a Musical Night arranged by Philip as a surprise, when he roped in a talented young musician from Cochin called Charles Antony to entertain us with old English (as well as Hindi and Malayalam) songs popular with us while we were in college. Charles was wonderful; all of us felt twenty years younger and there was much whooping and dancing! Simmy especially, was in spectacular form, having had one too many brandies, and was unanimously voted '(wo)man of the evening'!


The Musical Night in progress

Trying our best to dance to the music !


A boisterous Kala during dinner 
We also put to good use Dan O'Connor's Quaich, the Scottish Cup of Friendship which he had presented to me when Simmy and I visited him in Scotland last year. The cup brought back nostalgic memories of college life and old friends, especially Pod.

Friday, May 9, 2014

My friend Pod

If someone were to ask me who was my dearest friend, I would unhesitatingly say, ‘Pod’. Pod was the pet name of Sonam Wangdi Tenzing whom I first met on 15th July 1965, at the Assembly Hall of St.Stephen’s, Delhi, the college where we were both to spend five delightful years together. (The origin of his pet name is shrouded in the mists of Stephanian legends but has something to do with Hengist Pod, the maker of ‘square wheels’ from the popular comedy movie ‘Carry on Cleo’.)

On that day however, we were both scared freshers, terribly anxious about the ragging that we were facing.
‘Hi,’ I said nervously, stretching my hand out. ‘I’m Thomas Vallikappen from Kerala. Where are you from?’

‘Oh hello, I’m Sonam Tenzing from Sikkim,’ he replied, equally nervously, but shaking my hand vigorously. And that’s how the two of us, from the extremities of the sub-continent met that day. We were both doing History Honours and were delighted when we found ourselves allotted rooms in the same residential block, Allnutt South. He was in D-1, while I was in C-5. There were three other like-minded fellows, Shamsher Singh Ahlawat, Philip Mathew and Arvind Kala in the same block. We soon became bosom friends, sharing many escapades and adventures together, our friendship transcending college and working life and stretching well into our retirement. In fact we still remain the best of friends, getting together whenever we can. But of that, later. This is all about Pod…

The first few days of college life were miserable. There was heavy ragging and Pod and I would wait anxiously for classes to end, so that we could run away and take refuge with Pod’s elder brother who was then studying in another college, quite far from our campus. Frequently however, we were caught while returning at night, and then were even more mercilessly ragged by the seniors!  

Pod and I (as well as the rest of the gang) shared a lot of fun. Tutorials, scrambled eggs and toast at the cafĂ©, taxi-rides to Sheila Theatre, Dara Singh movies at Amba followed by dinner at Tare-Pyare restaurant, cutting classes, the occasional Chinese dinner at Mikados, a cabaret show, heavy drinking sessions (mostly cheap rum), duck shoots and picnics on the Yamuna, treks in Himachal, raiding the fruit-walla’s shop,  and much later, in our MA days, parties with girls!  

After college, we went on our separate ways, but always stayed in touch. Pod went into the Administrative Service, Shamsher and I joined the SBI, Kala became a journalist, and Philip joined the Malayala Manorama, the newspaper owned by his family.

Soon after Simmy and I got married, Pod got to Delhi, where I was then posted. To our delight, he was appointed Sikkim’s Resident Representative in Delhi and moved into Sikkim House, the opulent. palace of the Chogyal, Maharaja Palden Thondup Namgyal, who by then had been deposed (and worse still, disgraced. It was a very shameful and vindictive act by Indira Gandhi which most of us, including Pod, found distasteful, but could do nothing about it).          

It was a golden period for newly-weds like us! Pod was a generous host and brimming with hospitality. We spent many week-ends at Sikkim House, in the Chogyal’s luxurious suite. Our daughter Tonya too had a lovely time there and Pod was very fond of her. She loved playing in the garden and lawns, swimming in the pool and being spoilt silly by Pod’s staff, including his secretary, Miss George, a Malayali lady.  Pod had an army of cooks, waiters, drivers and gardeners and truly lived like a king. One day, after a particularly hectic weekend there, I was in no mood to go to office. I rang up my boss from the bedside phone (sheer luxury in those days).

As soon as he heard my voice on a Monday morning, the boss knew what was coming. ‘Yes, Thomas,' he asked patiently, ' what’s your excuse this time?’
‘Sir,’ I told him quite truthfully, ‘I’m in a palace, sleeping in a Maharaja’s bed, there’s a swimming pool just outside the room and I just don’t feel like coming to office. May I take the day off?'

There was a slight pause, followed incredibly by a chuckle at the other end, and the boss said, ‘Acha baba, enjoy yourself. Take the day off, but don’t make it a habit.’ I often wonder what I would have done under such circumstances. Would I have been so sporting and magnanimous? Hats off to P.N. Bhat, my boss of those days.      

Pod had a fleet of cars at his disposal, including a Mercedes-Benz. He visited us frequently at our humble 2nd floor flat in Saket. It was a treat to watch him arrive; the dapper Pod in a chauffeur-driven limousine! Our status went up considerably in the neighbourhood because of him.

After his stint in Delhi, Pod was sent to Sikkim, while I moved down south. We missed Pod and very soon after our transfer to Kerala, decided to visit him in Gangtok. Though Simmy was almost seven months pregnant then, she was adventurous enough to accompany me. As usual, Pod was the genial host and arranged comfortable accommodation for us at the PWD Guest House in Gangtok. We spent almost a week with him and enjoyed his lavish hospitality. At that time he was a comparatively junior officer, and must have had some difficulty in arranging the Guest House for us. Many years later, when he was Home Secretary of Sikkim he rang me up and said, ‘Tom, when are you coming to Sikkim next? No accommodation problems now. I’m Home Secretary, and jails come directly under me!’ Pod had a devastating sense of humour.        
With his son Kuncheok

With Sharda

With Karma and Kuncheok

Pod at home


A serious Pod

Pod’s next stint was in the north-eastern states, and we lost touch somewhat, though not fully. That’s when he got married to Sharda, a doctor from Nepal, whom we vaguely knew he was dating while in Delhi. When he returned to Sikkim a few years later, his rise in the bureaucracy was spectacular and before we knew it, he was occupying the top slot, that of Chief Secretary of Sikkim. It must have been a very fulfilling time for Pod's mother, a sprightly old lady, who, as I write this, is still going strong. Pod was the Chief Secretary, while the other son, Pod's elder brother (to whose room we used to run to escape ragging), was the Inspector-General of Police in Sikkim!

Though not an abrasive character, Pod was a principled man, scrupulously honest, and totally dedicated to his work. He soon fell foul of the politicians, particularly the then Chief Minister, and resigned in protest, though he retained the innocuous designation of ‘Adviser to the Govt. of Sikkim’ till the end. Around this time, we used to meet fairly frequently, in Delhi, and in Cochin, when he came to attend two of Philip’s children’s weddings. Each time he visited Kerala, he would insist on visiting Mavady, even if only for a few hours, because he loved the place.

Celebrating a birthday with his mother

Sharda and Pod

And then, on the 17th of July 2007, I got the news of his death. He had had a massive heart attack and passed away in Gangtok. He was barely 60. We were all shattered. It was not possible for us to attend his funeral but we took the earliest opportunity and within a month, Simmy and I were in Gangtok to meet Sharda and the children. We spent two days with them.  While in Gangtok, Sharda and Kuncheok (Pod’s son) took us around all the places associated with him, and we even accompanied Kuncheok when he took Pod’s ashes to their final resting place near Changu Lake on the Gangtok-Nathu La road. My mind was at peace; I finally felt that I had done justice to the memory of my dearest friend.

With a Sikkim Police constable who escorted us

Simmy and I at Changu Lake 

A pensive Simmy with Pod's mortal remains

Pod's ultimate resting place



We pay our respects

A part of Changu Lake


Though Pod has gone, we still remain in touch with Sharda and the family. A few months after Pod’s death, we were so happy when Kuncheok and Karma (his daughter) paid us a visit in Kottayam.

We miss Pod very much; his sartorial elegance, his quiet companionship, and his boyish, guileless laughter. We miss him so much that we have a small shrine-like alcove in our room, above my computer table, containing his photographs. He is also the only person apart from immediate family members, who is included in our daily prayers. He must surely be enjoying Nirvana.                  




Pod's Corner at our house in Kottayam 

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

My boat 'The Spirit of Meenachil'

Many people may wonder why my blog is known as 'Spirit of Meenachil'. The Meenachil is the name of the river that flows through our ancestral areas in and around Teekoy, and discharges into the Vembanad Lake at Kottayam. The very name 'Meenachil' brings delight in the minds and hearts of all Meenachilkars (people of Meenachil).
In addition, my boat is also called Spirit of Meenachil . My boat has given me (and my family and friends) so much joy and pleasure over the last ten years or so, that I thought I should include at least a few photographs of it in my blog. So here they are:



The ladies have a toddy break during a boat ride

Quite high after all that toddy!

I wait patiently for the ladies outside Champakulam church

Simmy in the boat

The boat docked at the Sailing Club
Learning the tricks from Papa

Tonya the ace pilot in the Vembanad Lake 
Father and son relaxing 
At peace with the world
On his own
Enjoying the lake 












In keeping with its name, The Spirit of Meenachil has always uplifted my spirits. Whenever I am down and out, a quick ride in the boat never fails to refresh me. Thanks to the boat, I now know the backwaters of Kerala like the palm of my hand! Initially I needed a map for navigation; but now, I can do most stretches on my own. The ride to Champakulam, my maternal home, is particularly beautiful and I always look forward to that destination. R Block, Alleppey, Karumady, Thanneermukkom, Kainakary, and Kuppapuram are some of the other picturesque places on the way. Once in a way, Simmy and I also make it to Cochin, where we head straight for the Yacht Club, and then onto Taj Malabar in the boat, for a sumptuous lunch there, always the highlight of the little adventure. I then come back to the Club, feeling very tycoonish!